It’s the final countdown before Thanksgiving.
There’s a turkey, or two, to stick in the oven, pies to make, tables to prep, and inner strength or zen to find as we gather around the table after one of the most divisive presidential campaigns in history.
Last week I wrote a column about how racism, sexism, misogyny, and all the prejudices that paved the way for Trump’s win are learned or tolerated at America’s dinner tables - and I encouraged people not to let them go this year.
I wrote: You know what I'm talking about - the ignorant comments you let go, the ones that I beg you not to allow this Thanksgiving - because your father or mother-in-law is just trying to get a rise out of you, because that's just crazy Grandpa or Uncle Joe, because your childhood friends are, deep down, good people.
For the record, no, I was not suggesting that you put Uncle Joe in a headlock until he stops making racist remarks in front of your kids. Tempting as it may be, I was also not advising you make your father-in-law eat in the cold garage until he realizes that suggesting you’re “one of the good ones” does not count as enlightened thinking.
I was suggesting we stand up and make it clear that isms that are traditionally tolerated over the holiday table are not OK or acceptable, and that instead of ignoring it all, we call them out and, maybe, expand their thinking over the mashed potatoes and gravy.
So how did you prep for these admittedly awkward moments? Did you, as one reader wrote to tell me, put up a huge sign at her front door banning political talk? Did you buy liquid courage by the case for the inevitable moment you’d finally stand up to your relatives?
Share your stories today. And then share them again, after the holiday, to let us know how it went. Good luck, and Happy Thanksgiving.