Dear Amy:

I lived with a guy for three years. We had some hard times. He cheated on me while I was laid up in the hospital, and he used my ATM cards, too. Two weeks before our third anniversary, he left me. While I was at work, he gave me a "Dear John" phone call.

I know that I am better off without him. He has now shacked up with a girl I work with. She is 10 years his junior and has a 19-month-old baby. They met on

I have been seeing a couple of wonderful men that I never knew could exist after being with my ex for so long, but for some reason I can't seem to let him go, even though I know I am better off without him.

I moved all his stuff out of the house and have nothing to remind me of him. Unfortunately, I still find myself wanting to see him.

How do you get over someone who is completely wrong for you, but still has your heart?

- Amy, in St. Louis

Dear Amy: Please don't say that this guy has your heart. Don't even think it. You need to save your heart for someone who deserves it.

What you're going through is fairly normal. It simply takes time to get over people, even when they're bottom-dwelling jerks.

Resist. Talk to your friends, take long baths and watch When Harry Met Sally. Do whatever it takes to feel better.

As you start to have better, healthier and more positive experiences, you will see that you dodged a mighty bullet.

Dear Amy: I couldn't help but respond to "Don't Like Like."

When I was in junior high, I was fortunate to have an English teacher who would consistently respond to someone using "like" inappropriately with: "I don't want to know what it's like, I want to know what it is!" This taught me not to use "like" as a filler word but to use it instead in its correct context.

I liked that she did this, seeing as it prevented me from overusing this word and appearing uneducated.

- Don't Like "Like" Either

Dear Either: I love hearing these anecdotes about the unforgettable lessons that teachers pass along to their students.

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