DEAR ABBY: I'm married to the girl of my dreams.

For several years, my wife worked the day shift at a hospital more than an hour away from home. I tried to persuade her to find a job closer so we could see each other more. Finally, she told me she had been offered a night shift position at the hospital here in town. She promised to switch to a day shift if one opened up.

It has been almost a year now, and she is still working the night shift. There have been many daytime openings, but she hasn't requested any of them. On most of my days off, I watch her sleep. I'm not sure what to do. I am not happy and I feel like I'm missing out on so much.

- Awake and Alone in Florida  

DEAR AWAKE AND ALONE: You are missing out, on the fun and companionship that you should be enjoying with your wife. It's time to have a frank conversation with her and find out why she has been stalling about changing shifts. There could be more wrong in your marriage than incompatible schedules.

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have hosted a holiday party for our neighbors every year for the last 10 years. We enjoy almost everyone, however, one of our neighbors, "Jim," is very rude.

Last year, we decided not to invite Jim, but after he sent multiple emails demanding to know the date and time, we reluctantly invited him. He then had the nerve to send out an email to dozens of people we intentionally didn't invite, thinking we had missed them on the guest list, notifying them of the party. How can I tell him it's not his party?

-It's Our Party

DEAR PARTY: There is more than one way to handle this. The most obvious would be to inform Jim that he won't be invited this year and tell him why.

Another way would be to forgo giving the party for a year or two. Tell anyone who asks why that the gatherings became too large to manage. And then, when you resume entertaining, limit the guest list to something a little more intimate.