Looking back to my childhood hockey years, I never realized that I was subconsciously setting goals to reach my purpose. I listened to my opponents as they wished for someone else to fall down so they could capitalize on the opportunity to take a shot, to take advantage of someone else's misfortune.
The approach has never entered my mind, and still doesn't. I always believed in what I could do. I created my own opportunities. I didn't have the time (or the patience) to wait around for someone else's mistake, with the uncertainty that it may never come. So I made my own success. If it didn't work out, then I would identify my mistake, learn from it, correct it and move on.
Sure, learning from other peoples' mistakes may work for the short-term. But analyzing your personal success using someone else's model is a waste of too much time and too much energy.
The most successful people do not invest their time in worrying about what other people think of them. Get busy, drive your passion, and move in the direction of your goals. If you allow yourself to actively participate in these three steps, you shouldn't have time to focus on the successes of others and how they've accomplished them. Concentrate on enhancing yourself and moving toward your purpose.
It's tough to move forward when you're busy looking behind you. It slows you down immensely. You'll easily forget how far you've come and what steps are necessary to move forward.
Holding yourself accountable for your success builds confidence, charisma, and helps you to make solid decisions, whether you're in the business arena or working toward personal life goals. You always get what you attract. If you fill up your mind with fear of other people, it will allow your competition to surpass you while you're left choking on the dust they've kicked up.
Recognize and revel in your own journey, and enjoy it while it lasts. After all, you are the only person in possession of it, and you are solely responsible for the outcome.
Use this method as a key ingredient in building your success. You hear a lot of people closely examining their competition, as if doing so will ensure your success. During my hockey career and beyond, it NEVER EVER entered my mind that I would lose my job to someone else. Because if it had, I would have been left in the dust before my career even began. I make the conscious effort to focus on how I can improve myself.
That, my friends, is when the magic happens.
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