Steve and Mia: SHE'S IN LOVE WITH HER SEX BUDDY

Q: I'm involved with a man who I really love, but he seems to want to keep it as a friends-with-benefits thing. When I tell him how unhappy I am with this arrangement, he says, "I'm free. You're free. What's wrong with that?" I want a committed relationship with him. He wants to keep it the way it started. Should I leave him or should I stay and hope that he'll change?

Mia: Girl, you already know what to do. Get the hell out - now. And the next time some man wants you to get into a friends-with-benefits situation, ask yourself if that's what you really want, or whether you're doing it just to win him over.

Steve: The problem, however, is that what begins as FWB can end in love. You don't say how long you've been dating him. If you've been together a year and he's not committing, then you have no future together. If you've been with him a month, it's probably too early to tell.

Q: I met a man who told me I could move in with him. He said he would take care of the bills and everything. Well, this worked for a while, but I began to feel depressed and I don't know why. We eventually broke up, and now he's asking me to pay him back for my breast implants. He's the one who wanted me to get them! I don't want to end it ugly, but I feel I have no choice. I wish we could remain friends, but he's being ridiculous. I need my money to start a new life.

Steve: And you'll find your bigger breasts quite useful, too. The boob job was a gift, and only the lowliest cad asks for gifts back when a relationship ends. Ah, well, c'est l'amour.

Mia: He's hurt and trying to hurt you. Give it time and, hopefully, he'll calm down and accept that you've moved on. If he doesn't, maybe you can work out a payment plan.