DEAR ABBY: I have been in a horrible marriage for eight years. "Greg" has a lot of problems and has a hard time being in a relationship. I recently learned he was raped by a family member when he was little. He claims it didn't happen. Greg may be having a fling with a guy who calls him constantly and has shown up at our house at 12:30 at night. Greg refused to answer the door, but texted him and lied to me about it.

- Lost in Bronx, N.Y.

DEAR LOST: Why have you tolerated a "horrible" marriage for eight long years? Check his computer for evidence, or hire a private detective. The information will help you decide what to do.

DEAR ABBY: My mother criticizes almost everything I and my husband do. It wasn't nearly as difficult to ignore when we lived in a different state, but now we live across town. I know it's not normal to feel depressed as long as I have. (My feelings intensified when we moved in 2003.)

- Feeling Low in Las Vegas

DEAR FEELING LOW: If you haven't told your mother how hurtful her criticisms are, it's time you and your husband had a heart-to-heart with Mama. Tell her plainly that the more she criticizes, the less she'll see of you.

DEAR ABBY: My granddaughter, "Eden," has blue eyes, black eyelashes and long blond hair. Anywhere I take her, people tell her how beautiful she is. Eden is so embarrassed. I know people mean well, but what is an appropriate response?

- Nana in Tampa

DEAR NANA: Say: "Thank you. But even more important than beauty, my granddaughter is smart and nice to others, and we are very proud of her." *