Dear Abby | Women who miscarry can get support

DEAR ABBY: After reading the letter from "Anonymous in the North," I had to write. I, too, have suffered a miscarriage. Not only did I mourn the loss of my pregnancy, but I was afraid I'd never be able to have children.

"Anonymous" should know that one in four pregnancies ends in miscarriage. If she talks with other women, she'll see she's not alone in her suffering. Sharing her story with others who have been through the same thing may ease her pain.

Nine months after my miscarriage I became pregnant with my son. The happiest moment of my life was when I was able to hold him in my arms. I am now the happy mother of three.

- Another Mom in the North

DEAR MOM: I was touched by the number of women who wrote to support "Anonymous in the North," and amazed at how many said they'd had miscarriages, too. One reader suggested that "Anonymous" contact area hospitals to see if there is a local support group for parents who have suffered infant loss, explaining that it helped her cope with her own grief.

A group that has helped many is Share: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Support Inc. Founded in 1977, it has 80 chapters and offers mutual support for bereaved parents and families who have suffered a loss due to miscarriage, stillbirth or neonatal death. Its toll-free number is 800-821-6819, and its Web site is www.nationalshareoffice.com.

DEAR ABBY: After my miscarriage it was hard for me to see a pregnant woman or baby. My doctor gave me a book that helped me understand and deal with my feelings. I hope "Anonymous" can get a similar reference from her doctor.

- Been There and Got Through It