Steve and Mia: Your hand. My leg. No deal.

Q: I'm a sales rep and have had a business relationship for several years with a man who represents one of my customers. We've gone to lunch from time to time, he's shown me photos of his wife and kids and I've shown him photos of my husband and I on vacation. Two weeks ago we agreed to meet for a drink after work. After a couple of drinks he suggested we go to dinner at a nice hotel and he put his hand on my leg! I have no attraction to this guy, never led him on and he never behaved that way before. Of course, I turned him down. But should I agree to have lunch with him again? I don't want to lose his company's business. What do you suggest?

Steve: Perhaps his napkin fell on your leg. Or, maybe, he thought it was his leg. These things happen after a couple of drinks. Just kidding! I wouldn't make a big deal of it, but no more drinks with him after work. And no drinks at lunch either. And if he touches your leg again, tell him the last guy who did that is now known as "Lefty."

Mia: Steve, why are you easy on the creep with creeping hands? This kind of thing is so annoying. Practically every woman in business has had to deal with this scenario at some point. The next time he touches your leg, try saying, "So, how's Marian?" or whatever his wife's name is. Maybe that will guilt trip him into keeping things professional. Keep smiling though. You don't want to turn him into any enemy since it could influence your business relationship with your customer.

Q: My boy friend says that oral sex is not cheating. I told him this is ridiculous. But then we got into a discussion of what else I would consider cheating, like kissing, hugging or even talking. I would say kissing and hugging is cheating and talking could be, depending on what you're talking about. But, to be honest, I'm not sure where most people draw the line. At what point can you say for sure that someone is cheating?

Mia: You're cheating if you're doing something you wouldn't want your partner to know about. So if you'd rather your guy not see the texts you're sending someone, then you'd better check yourself. Same thing with physical things. If you'd rather your boyfriend didn't know about the drunk dialing you did with your ex, then you're cheating.

Steve: You know you're cheating when the guy from "Cheaters" shows up at your front door with a microphone and cameras rolling. Some might consider a handshake cheating. Swingers wouldn't consider sex cheating, but would consider an emotional connection cheating. But Mia's right, this is a good rule: If you're doing something you'd be ashamed to reveal to your spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend, you're cheating. *