Ask Amy: Her ex-boyfriend talked to a girl

Dear Amy:

I am 16 years old and a junior in high school. I seem to be involved in a never-ending supply of drama - teenage and otherwise.

Last year I went through a series of painful episodes, including watching my parents finalize their divorce, the loss of a close relative, and stress from the pressures of school and friends. As a result, I ended my relationship with my boyfriend.

Life seemed to slowly progress to normal. We're still in the same group of friends, and we recently started discussing the prospect of getting back together.

Unfortunately, I just learned that during the summer while I was at camp, a really good girlfriend of mine became interested in my boyfriend. Now I am extremely confused.

People are taking sides, giving me (often bad) advice, and generally the chemistry with my friends now feels kind of explosive.

I'm not sure what to do. I really don't want to get caught up in another big drama, especially because junior year is the most important academically.

Dear Unsure: You might be overreacting - and your friends might be nudging your reaction into the red zone by being gossipy and dramatic - but you are responsible for your own reactions and the consequences of your own behavior.

Let this lie.

If you don't want to get caught up in lots of teen-angsty drama, then don't. Explain yourself privately to those people you want to get straight with, agree to start fresh, and if your friends try to entwine you in a drama, tell them you're prepping for your SATs and ignore it.