Ask Amy: Fiancee goes negative; he thinks about going
Dear Amy: For the most part my fiancee is great, but she has started to become very negative toward me.
Dear Amy:
For the most part my fiancee is great, but she has started to become very negative toward me.
She seems to think it's OK to yell at me for any reason she chooses. She seems to be looking for my flaws rather than for anything good.
I am trying to figure out what would be the best way to tell her to stop being so negative and talk to me like an adult - or I am ending this relationship. I am really tired of feeling as though I'm not appreciated. If we don't fix this, I'm leaving.
The best place to fix this is in the office of a professional counselor.
You two need premarital counseling. Everybody does.
Your fiancee's behavior is unacceptable. She needs to figure out how to talk, express her frustration, and argue with you differently.
Emotions run high when a wedding is in the offing. The stress can cause people to behave badly. But I agree that if your fiancee isn't able to change her negativity and abusive behavior, you should leave the relationship.
Do not get married unless you feel absolutely confident that you will be treated with respect.
Dear Amy: I'd like to weigh in on the women who are complaining about the gifts given to them by their husbands over the years.
My question to them would be this: Are their husbands kind, loyal, faithful, loving, and supportive? Aren't those the things that matter? My soon-to-be ex-wife was none of those things.
I couldn't care less about the gifts she may have given me over the years, no matter what they were.
- Counting My Blessings Dear Counting: I'm enjoying these "worst gift" stories, but I very much agree with you that when people are loving, loyal, and kind, other more material gifts don't matter.