Ask Amy: When a 'break' means 'bye-bye'

Dear Amy:

My boyfriend of just over a year is going to be working out of state for a few months, and he said he wants us to take a break while he's gone.

He still wants to talk and visit when he's in town, but he also wants to date other people to be sure we are meant for each other.

Dear Worried: If your boyfriend wants to "take a break," then that's his right. If you are going to be separated, I think this is a pretty good idea.

But to tell you he wants to date other people to make sure you are meant for each other is - well, the technical term is "a crock."

I suggest you say to him, "Honey, I think it's a great idea to date other people. I don't know whether I will also want to see you when you're home, but let's just wait and see about that."

People in love and committed to being together don't want to see other people, no matter what distance separates them. They also don't need to date others to test a person's suitability.

You can have a fun and fulfilling relationship without this level of exclusive commitment, but it's important for you to know what kind of relationship you're having.

Dear Amy: I am a 16-year-old high school student.

Recently I was punished for watering down tequila, which I swear I absolutely did not do. My aunt accused me of this because I'm the only teenager who spends days and evenings at her house baby-sitting. No one believes that I did not do this. Even my parents don't believe me!

Dear Accused: You shouldn't have to prove your innocence, but it sounds as if you won't be able to anyway.

Instead, focus on asserting your suitability as a baby sitter. If your aunt's liquor is being watered down, you should ask her to please keep any alcohol under lock and key.