Steve and Mia: She can't choose between two lovers
Q: I'm 41 and dating two men. I have a great time with both. The one I have been dating almost five years still lives with his parents. His mom still cooks and washes for him. He works two jobs and drinks a lot. He is the partyer. He loves me but doesn't
Q: I'm 41 and dating two men. I have a great time with both. The one I have been dating almost five years still lives with his parents. His mom still cooks and washes for him. He works two jobs and drinks a lot. He is the partyer. He loves me but doesn't want to marry me. He has also kept things from me, like the fact that he was married before. But I love him despite that. The second man is a friend from childhood who I got reacquainted with about a year ago. He is sweet, generous, a great father, cooks for me, takes me to baseball games and is always patient. He tells me I'm beautiful and treats me great. But I'm not in love with him. I'm so confused about what to do. Please help!
Steve: Boy, this is a tough one. One guy doesn't love you, lives with his parents, isn't completely honest and drinks a lot. The other guy sounds like a great person and treats you like a princess.
I'm gonna take a wild stab here and guess that man No. 2 would be the better choice for your future. Then again, if the chemistry doesn't fit, then you musta quit. Try to find someone like man No. 2 who lights your fire like man No. 1 does.
Mia: Aren't you the man-getter! Lots of women sit home lonely every single night, and you have two men whose company you enjoy. I don't quite get what your dilemma is.
Neither of these men is right for you, but there's no reason that you can't continue enjoying their company until the right one comes along. Just have fun and keep your options open, because you never know when the right one will come along.
Q: Any idea how to spice things up for Valentine's Day? I've been married 10 years and am out of tricks.
Mia: What about a little light bondage? You can use some silky scarves and maybe a blindfold. Or you can cover your bed with a shower curtain and coat the whole thing with oil for some slippery love play.
Steve: You could tie your husband up, lock him in a trunk and drop him in the river. Oh, wait. That's heavy bondage. Instead of asking us, how about asking hubby what he'd like to do that might be a little bit different? I bet he has a few ideas.