Steve and Mia: Fiancee has cold feet

Q: I have been with my fiancée for almost six years. We were engaged and moved into a house a few months ago. Now she says she needs time and space to figure things out. Do I give her time? If so, how much?

Steve: I suspect there's a specific reason for her cold feet. Find out what it is.

Mia: If things drag on too long, it's not as if you have to sit around and wait for Miss Thing to make up her mind. You need to be living your life, and if that includes dating other honeys, then so be it. Don't be sneaky about it, though. Let her know ahead of time.

Q: How do I explain to my husband of many years that daily sex is not what I want anymore? I am close to 50 and would like a break. I love him dearly, but my sex drive has decreased over the years. Between work and school and the grandchildren visiting, I am tired. I wouldn't mind three or four times a week, but daily has become too much for me!

Mia: Lots of women would trade places if they could. Count your blessings and get your hormone levels checked. Maybe there's something that can be done to get you revved up again. In the meantime, stock up on lube and feel fortunate.

Steve: It's quite common for a woman's sexual desire to ebb as she ages. And many women avoid hormones because of their side effects. Cutting back to three or four times a week isn't an unreasonable request.