Steve and Mia: He keeps blabbing about their sex life

Q: I've been dating a great guy for six months, and he's very attentive and respectful in bed. But he can't keep his mouth shut about our bedroom activities. He's mentioned it in social situations, with my family, with his family and, I have no doubt, with the guys at work. He's not crude or anything, but he'll talk about what a nice lovemaking session we had or things we like to do. It embarrasses me! I've told him this, but he just laughs it off and says I should be more uninhibited. I'm afraid this will affect our bedroom fun, as I am getting more resentful. What can I do?

Mia: How high school. Tell blabbermouth to shut up about your in-bed escapades or else there won't be any. If you still catch him blabbing, refuse to have sex with him - and stick to it until he learns to keep his mouth shut.

Steve: Gentlemen never, ever kiss and tell. This guy must've been raised wrong. Mia's right. Tell him his loose lips are sinking his sexual ship.

Q: What's the best way to tell a man that he isn't a good lover? I've been dropping hints about what I want and have sat him down to talk about what's lacking, but nothing changes. I'm beginning to think he'll never get it. It's as if he's going one direction on the highway and I'm going a whole other direction. I'd like for him to slow down and he seems content being Mr. Wham-bam-thank-you-ma'am. I'd hate to break up with him, since we are otherwise a great couple. What do you suggest I do?

Steve: What's the best way to tell a man he's bad in bed? Sleep with his best friend. Just kidding! Instead of telling him what's wrong, suggest some things you'd like him to do that he would enjoy as well. And remind him that the bedroom is the one place where finishing second is better than finishing first.

Mia: Ask yourself whether you are more interested in having a great lover or having a wonderful relationship. If the answer is relationship, you have to keep trying to get through to that thick-skulled boyfriend of yours. But if you're more interested in great sex, it's easier to move on and find someone with better skills than to keep going through the "this is what you do with a va-jay-jay" talk over and over.