DEAR ABBY: I am 24 and pregnant by a married man. I didn't find out that he was married until after I learned I was pregnant. I love him so much, and he swears he loves me, too. I am afraid to tell my family that he's still married. He has promised that he's going to leave his wife, but I don't see that happening.

- All Alone in Eustis, Fla.

DEAR ALL ALONE: Tell your family. You are going to need their emotional support. This man has lied and misrepresented himself to you from the beginning, so don't expect him to suddenly stand up and act like a man now. Give him a choice: Either he leaves his wife, or you are going to a lawyer to ensure he provides financially for his child and your care.

DEAR ABBY: I recently realized a clerk has been selling me "senior" bus tickets for people 65 and older. Abby, I have more than 10 years before I turn 65. This has caused me considerable embarrassment. I think these employees should be given some sensitivity training.

- Upset in Utica, N.Y.

DEAR UPSET: Senior discounts can begin from one's mid-50s. Inform the clerk that you appreciate the attempt to save you money, but you are not yet eligible.

DEAR ABBY: I am a high school freshman. My mother lives in Florida and my dad in Ohio. By June, I must choose which one I want to live with, meaning I won't see the other one for most of the year. I love them both and hate going through this.

- Difficult Choice, Baltimore, Ohio

DEAR DIFFICULT CHOICE: Because your e-mail address says "Hellraisin' Devil," choose the parent able to provide the most supervision. *