DEAR ABBY: On our last date, "Chris" told me he was a virgin and that it was important for him to find a girl who had "never been with anyone." Well, that bridge was burned when I was a teenager. I am a different person now due to a religious conversion and am waiting until I am married to have sex again. I told Chris this, and asked if he wanted to continue the relationship. He said he'd "have to think about it." I now feel devalued. I have strong opinions about men who sing "Amazing Grace" in church while insisting on marrying virgins.
- Deflowered in Pennsylvania
DEAR "DEE": Cross Chris off your list as husband material. He may be self-conscious about his inexperience or old-fashioned values.
DEAR ABBY: I had a teen pregnancy and my parents sent me away to live with relatives. My parents raised "Jacob" as their own, adopted him and never hid the fact that I am his biological mother. Eventually everyone in my family moved to where I live, including my son, whom I treat as a younger brother. I am now the mother of 2-year-old twins. Jacob adores the girls and sees them often. I don't know how to explain Jake to them. No one outside my family knows. I never got the chance to be a mother to Jacob, but I would like to be a good one for my girls.
- Just Call Me Brianna