DEAR ABBY: I love my husband of 13 years and our 6-year-old son. They both love me. The problem is, the two of them cannot get along when I'm around. They constantly fight over me. I feel like I am raising two sons instead of having a happy home life. I never tell either one that I love him more than the other. Should I tell my husband that I love him more in front of our son? Would that help in the conflict? What should I say or do?

- Divided Heart, Decatur, Ill.

DEAR DIVIDED: It's time for a frank conversation with your husband, telling him in no uncertain terms that it's time for him to grow up and stop acting like a 6-year-old. Under no circumstances should you tell your husband in front of your son that you love him "more." If my advice doesn't resolve this issue, then it's time to schedule some family counseling.

DEAR ABBY: My husband of 11 years and I were having serious marital problems. At the same time, my sister moved in with us. Now she and my husband say they have fallen in love.

My husband and I decided to try and save our marriage. Then, two days later, he and my sister slept together! I kicked both of them out of my house. What makes it harder is I still love them both and have now lost my sister and my best friend, and I don't know what to do.

- Brokenhearted in Portland, Ore.

DEAR BROKENHEARTED: While your anger and disappointment are understandable, you must now decide how long you intend to let them rule your life. I have a possible solution. You say you still love them both; then why not forgive them? It will free you to go on with your own life - and they deserve each other. *