Divorce is frequently a mess, including the complicated financial issues involved. These sites are aimed at helping to unwind the money in a marriage. Some are enthusiastically sex-specific.

Tips for women. The Web site divorce.360 provides a list of financial tips for women considering divorce. It includes this one: Don't accept a 50-50 split, on grounds that such a division of property is not necessarily fair. Other tips are to create a budget, learn the tax implications of divorce, and mind the money details.

www.divorce360.com/articles/56/financial-tips-for-women.aspx

Another article at divorce.360 notes 15 "costly financial mistakes" in divorce, such as "failing to recognize your enemy," namely the Internal Revenue Service.

www.divorce360.com/articles/187/divorcing-15-costly-mistakes-.aspx

Man's divorce. We'll stay away from the "secret divorce planning" sites. But win-win advice is still hard to find. The financial advice here aimed specifically at men says, "No one gets everything they want in a divorce settlement. Prepare for this by creating a short list of 'Must-Haves,' a longer list of 'Would-Like-to-Haves,' and a third list of 'Don't-Wants.' " Then, don't tell your ex what's on the third list.

www.wifesgone.com/index.cfm?Id=186

Woman's divorce. Still more female-specific checklists on the financial impact of divorce are here. Near the bottom of the page are some links on financial issues after divorce, including reasons to get a prenuptial agreement before you get remarried.

www.womansdivorce.com/divorce-and-money.html

Divorce mediation. Could a neutral mediator help you do a better job at all this? Here is a quick description of the mediation process.

www.divorceinfo.com/mediation.htm

DivorceNet. Since divorce laws are state-specific, the DivorceNet site first asks you to identify your state as you begin looking for resources. The state page is then a list of articles on law, credit and debt, pensions, property division, and so on, along with a slew of advice on all the other sticky, touchy, complicated subjects pertaining to ending a marriage.

www.divorcenet.com/