DEAR ABBY: Ten years ago when I was in college, I worked briefly as a topless dancer to pay my rent. I am now married and have young children. My husband knows my past and doesn't judge me.

I have a college friend, "Nancy," with whom I get together once or twice a year. We recently had her over. Out of the blue, Nancy looked at my 2-year-old daughter and said, "Did you know your mommy used to be a stripper?" Then laughed. I was stunned.

My husband wasn't in the room. When I told him a few days later, he was very upset. He said I need to address this with her before we get together again. He says if I don't, he will.

I can't believe she'll do it again. I'd be horrified if she did. What do I do?

- Stripped of My Pride

DEAR STRIPPED: I believe your friend will do it again. She appears to lack good judgment.

Explain to Nancy that you are not proud of what you did and ask her not to bring it up again. If she won't comply, it may be time to end the friendship.

DEAR ABBY: My brother and his fiancee are being married this year. They want me to be part of the wedding party, but I just don't happen to be the "bridesmaid" type. I haven't worn a dress since I was a toddler and really don't feel comfortable wearing one. Is there any way I can let them down gently?

- Never the Bridesmaid

DEAR NEVER: You should definitely be a part of your brother's wedding. Ask if you could do something that does not require a dress, perhaps a reading. I'm sure you can work something out so everyone will be happy on their perfect day. *