My 10-year-old son attended a classmate's birthday party held in a public venue. Afterward, food was served at the birthday boy's home.
Video was taken of the children in both places, and the video was posted on YouTube.
We don't know the family all that well, and we were surprised to see very clear images of our child on YouTube.
I called the mom and politely expressed my unhappiness with this disclosure.
Am I mistaken to believe that they took this a bit far without the parents' permission?
Video of your son will end up on YouTube when he appears in his school's holiday concert, basketball tournament or Boy Scouts awards ceremony. He and his friends will make films and post them on YouTube for school projects or for fun.
While I understand your rational parental concern about use of your son's image without his (or your) consent, you should use this opportunity to educate your child about the risks of video sharing.
I think all concerned parents regret the loss of privacy our children will experience as they grow up in our virtual world. But it is your son's world to inherit, and you should work with him to make sure he is cautious - and aware of the consequences.
Tell him that when there is a camera around, he should assume that you are watching - along with the rest of us.
Dear Amy: Should I report to my orthopedic surgeon that his physician assistant is patronizing and sexist?
I've seen this fiftysomething male four times. He pats me on the back, arm or head every time I see him.
When I placed a call to ask him a follow-up question after rotator cuff surgery, he referred to me as "Toots."
I've noticed that he pats the nursing staff as well.
I can't be the only one who finds this offensive and demeaning.
"Toots" is another issue, though surely you can appreciate someone who can use a phrase from a 1930s screwball comedy with confidence. Toots is definitely not something a professional should call a client.
The person you should first express your displeasure to is the offender. Give him a chance to treat you as you would like to be treated.
If he can't figure out how to behave professionally toward you immediately, then take your concerns to the surgeon.