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Steve and Mia: Middle-aged white guy loves African angel, but ...

Q: Last October, I had the pleasure of meeting a young woman from Kenya. I took her to a Dave Matthews concert to show my appreciation and gratitude at how, as a nurse, she treated my aunt. Nine months later, our relationship has blossomed into an incredi

Q: Last October, I had the pleasure of meeting a young woman from Kenya. I took her to a Dave Matthews concert to show my appreciation and gratitude at how, as a nurse, she treated my aunt. Nine months later, our relationship has blossomed into an incredible level of love, trust and giving. As a 47-year-old balding white man, I can't help but be reminded that God has put this angel from Africa in my life. The problem that occurs is many people in my circle still have a problem with interracial dating. Should I lead with my heart?

Mia: Yes, yes and yes! Don't worry what the haters think. Let them stay stuck on stupid. Racial bigotry will never go away, but you can't let that keep you from your African angel. Lead with your heart or else you'll spend the rest of your life regretting it.

Steve: Hmmmm, let's examine your choice. You can have an incredible level of love, trust and giving. Or you can make a bunch of bigots happy. Tough one, but I'd lean toward the former.

Q: My boyfriend sex-texted me a naked photo of himself from the neck down. Now he wants me to do the same for him. I feel weird about it. But he says it's no big deal since you won't be able to see my face. What do you think? I don't want him to think I'm a prude.

Steve: Nude photos for your boyfriend might seem like a good idea, but you never know who'll end up seeing them. If you'd feel uncomfortable knowing a guy at work would see them, for example, then it's best not to make them at all.

Mia: Don't do it, girl! Your guy can send you all the naked pictures he wants to but that doesn't mean you should return the favor. What if he loses his phone or gets mad and decides to show his buddies pictures of your naked vajayjay? You'll never have to worry about booty shots of you being posted on Facebook or Twitter if you don't pose for them. Be smart and tell your guy "no" and stick to it.