DEAR ABBY: I recently met a man I love dearly, but I don't agree with the toys he buys for his 10-year-old son, "Dale." The boy plays violent video games and is obsessed with guns to the point that we can't leave the house without bringing a toy gun along. The video games he plays (unsupervised) are violent and gory, and rated M (17 and over).
Dale is not mature for his age. He's allowed on the Internet without supervision, and I have walked in and caught him surfing naughty pictures. When I told his dad, he laughed and said, "Boys will be boys!"
Abby, I'm afraid for my 6-year-old daughter. A few weeks ago, when Dale grabbed her in a choke hold and held a toy gun to her head, she became hysterical.
I think Dale's obsession is unhealthy, and I don't think it's healthy for my daughter to be around him. How do I handle this with my boyfriend? I love him and would like to spend the rest of my life with him, but I cannot marry him at the expense of my daughter.
- Paranoid and Perplexed