DEAR ABBY: I recently went in on a gift with my friend "Ali" for our other friend, "Gena." Ali offered to purchase and wrap the gift, a nice wallet from an inexpensive store. Imagine my surprise when Ali turned up at Gena's birthday party with the wallet elaborately wrapped in expensive designer paper.
It turned out that Ali had reused the wrapping paper from a gift her husband had given her, disguising our present as something it wasn't.
Gena was clearly disappointed. Other guests who had been eyeing it looked excited at first, then confused. I felt our gift wasn't appreciated and we ended up looking cheap. What would have been the appropriate way to handle the situation? Is this normal gift-wrapping practice, or did Ali cross the line?
- Flabbergasted in Florida
DEAR FLABBERGASTED: Reusing wrapping paper isn't unusual. Gena's reaction to the gift was inappropriate. Instead of letting her disappointment show, Gena should have smiled and graciously thanked you and Ali for her gift. (Remember the phrase, "It's the thought that counts"?)
As for you, all you needed to say was "Happy Birthday!"
DEAR ABBY: With Mother's Day nearly upon us, would you remind your readers that stepmothers are worthy of recognition, too? If one has any regard for the feelings of his or her stepmom, please make her day by calling or visiting her and telling her how much she means to you. Every Mother's Day for 14 years I have been reminded that my husband's sons choose not to recognize me. It's a real heartbreaker.
- Giving Up On Waiting in Oregon