Tips for the post election blues

Few, if any, political campaigns have been as polarizing as this presidential contest. It's almost as if one half of the country thinks the other is crazy, immoral or both, and vice versa.

But what if you know someone you like - a co-worker, a friend, a relative, a social media correspondent - who is on the other side of the political divide? Perhaps sparks have already flown between you. How do you build a bridge?

"A lot of times we get very focused on change and changing other people - their opinions and views," said Jim A. Haugh, associate professor of psychology at Rowan University.

At a time like this, it's better to focus instead on acceptance, non-defensive communication, tolerance for differences and practicing some detachment, Haugh suggested.

"The easy solution is to turn it off and let it sit for a little while," he said.
Try to recognize that people have different views. Avoid snarky comments on Facebook.

"To fire back at them isn't going to make them change, and it isn't going to help you,"  Haugh said.

More constructive might be to get involved in the issues that concern you. Volunteer or advocate for a cause. Be the change you want to see, as the saying goes.

"Do things that move you in the direction of the things that have value for you," Haugh said.

And try to remember what you liked about your politically different friends or relations to begin with.

"If these people are in my life, they are in my life for a reason," Haugh said. "I would try to find those things that brought us together in the first place. Discover and nurture those things."

Still feeling stressed out?
The Philadelphia Department of Behavioral Health and DisAbility Service has these post-election tips.

- If the 24-hour news cycle and its content is proving too upsetting, limit your media consumption. The same can be true of social media. Instead, go for a walk or spend time with family and friends doing things you enjoy.

- Avoid discussions about the election's results if you think they may turn into conflict.

- If you are having trouble focusing or going about your routine due to fear, try writing those worst worries down. Fact check them. Think about what is actually possible. Hopefully, this exercise may help you relax.

- If you are experiencing panic, remember little will change overnight. The new president will not take office until January, and even then there are two other branches of government that will yield some stability immediately after the transition.

— Ask for help. Visit HealthyMindsPhilly.org for a free online screening and learn about resources available. Call the Philadelphia Warm Line, 855-507-WARM (9276) or 267-507-3945 to speak with a person about emotional stress. Peers are available Monday to Friday from 4 to 7 p.m.

For referrals to services in the city, call 888-545-2600 24/7. For those in extreme distress, call the Suicide and Crises Intervention Hotline at 215-686-4420.